Most people get married for the same reason: They are in love. However, when it comes to divorce, the reasons are often just as unique and varied as the individuals themselves. But, there are some reasons for divorce that seem to come up more often than others. Furthermore, it might surprise you that infidelity is rather low on the list for reasons to end a marriage.
If you are thinking about divorce, one (or more than one) of these common reasons might resonate with you. Here is a list of the most typical reasons people have given for divorce.
All the wrong reasons
As mentioned above, many people get married because they are in love. Or at least they were when they proposed or said yes to the proposal. When the big day arrives, there are a lot of people who get to the altar already thinking about ending the relationship.
Perhaps they changed their minds somewhere during the planning stage. Maybe they weren’t even sure at the time of proposal and things got out of hand. For many of these divorcees, they didn’t want to back out at the last minute with all their wedding guests as witnesses.
Loss of identity
You might have known a few couples who fall into this category over the years. The ones who can’t seem to do anything without the other. The ones who spend so much time together that they not only finish each other’s thoughts but also even dress alike. While this might work out for some, for others, this is a manifestation of identity loss and it often leads to a break down in the relationship.
Lack of intimacy
While two people are trying to build careers and families, it is all too easy to focus too much on the goals and forget about each other. The marriage becomes too business-like and intimacy disappears. Unfortunately, many couples do not realize this has happened until the kids have all turned 18 and moved off to college. Then, two people who have been together for 20 more years often realize that they lost something along the way but it is too late to rekindle the spark.
Finances are certainly one of the leading reasons why people divorce. In many cases, one partner is more conservative with money while the other spends more freely. When the two feel like they are working against each other in the financial department, the relationship can easily crumble.
If you are considering divorce, one of the above reasons might apply to your situation. However, regardless of the reason for ending your marriage, keep in mind that you still need to take steps to protect your interests when it comes time to negotiate for a divorce settlement.